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Episode 181: You Made It Weird
June Diane Raphael

You Made It Weird #181: June Diane Raphael

June Diane Raphael (NTSF:SD:SUV, Burning Love, Ass Backwards) makes it weird!

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  1. Donta says:

    That was intense!

  2. Pat T says:

    like so many others here, i’m at at a loss for words. June is such a wonderful person and i’m so happy she shared all this on the podcast. Pete, you were a remarkable friend and host in this episode. This is going to be something i revisit, a lot of wisdom here. You both are beautiful.

  3. So the luckiest man in the world is Paul Scheer. Now I know.

  4. Mike Brivel says:

    I listened to an hour and really wanted to somehow revoke their Irishness. I’d love to criticize this episode but these people might be a little too fragile. Anyway, I was really disappointed with this show, I thought there was an opportunity to do something really cool with the premise but this is more; some people are just kind of pathetic and self absorbed than everyone is weird. Also, if you are in therapy 5 days a week, you aren’t dealing with anything, you’re not learning anything and your shrink thinks you’re a schmuck. Not trying to be a troll, just hated all the agreeing that what they are doing is healthy and good for them.

  5. Natalie says:

    I just listened to the exfoliation piece and my husband used to break out due to shaving and did the exfoliation thing. But then I bought him this shave cream:
    and now his life is better (and Mr. Smoothface is even smoother 🙂

  6. troya3 says:

    Wow. Several seconds of silence on a Pete Holmes podcast? I think that was one of the most moving things I have experienced from You Made it Weird. And there have been a lot of moving things.

    Well done.

  7. Lisa says:

    So Pete…with the arrival of your show (tonight, EEP!!!) meaning this podcast is cut down to once a week, I have been trying to branch out my podcast listening. I have listened to a few different popular ones that people seem to be real big fan of, and what I have learned is that I just cannot get on board with ones that aren’t yours! Everybody else just asks the typical interview type questions, talks about the boring stuff for an hour, and it’s over. THAT’S IT. You are giving us 1-3 hours a week of REAL, touching, open, hilarious, sometimes beautifully sad listening, and I so appreciate that. Your podcast has honestly got me through some real tough times, and I hope you never ever stop doing it. Thank you so much for this beautiful episode. June is a treasure. A total kook, of course, but that’s a good thing in my books. Thanks for this! Just so lovely.

  8. k says:

    Jonesy, you’re a dick.

  9. Kurt says:

    as usual i wasn’t on board with the new-age/astrology/whatever section of the show but the conversation as a whole was wonderful. i’ve been a fan of June’s for some time and it was really interesting to get a more candid perspective of her. the discussion about her mother was particularly touching and, as many have said, one of the great moments of the podcast. June is a gem. as always, Great show Pete, i can’t wait for your show tomorrow!

  10. This was one of my favorite episodes. June is an absolute gem of a human being. Her ability to tap into every emotion and explain it so perfectly and poetically is something to be admired. The blend of her and Pete’s openness and humor made it a really fun and therapeutic listen. Thanks!

  11. Alec says:

    Pete, why would you think the home of fois gras would would be against animals cruelty? 😛

    Also, speaking of clowns with no language:

  12. Jonesy says:

    There is scientifically no relation whatsoever between the lunar cycle and menstruation. And astrology is absolute nonsense. All this episode did was tell me that June is crazy and Oete is way too willing to give over to bullshit. Now I get why she’s so hot and married to that ugly goon. No one else would have this nut so bitch. She has a great ass though.

  13. jimmer says:

    I can’t imagine a more endearing person than june. this was a wonderful episode. thank you so much

  14. Kellen says:

    When June asked, “Do you exfoliate?” and Pete exclaims “I’m so glad you asked!” I lost my shit.

  15. Joseph Young says:

    Wow, that 25 seconds was powerful. Hugs for June.

  16. Paige says:

    one of my all-time favorite episodes!! 20 second hugs for everyone!

  17. Steve S says:

    God damn it Pete you’ve got the coolest most personal podcast. This one was like a breath of fresh air. June thanks for sharing!

  18. Pop says:

    June, you are so wonderful and hilarious and graceful. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

    Pete, thanks for YMIW and thanks for this episode.

  19. Kat says:

    Just listened to this episode, and I wanted to thank June somehow for being so willing to have her emotions on her sleeve. I’ve lost people close to me in the last few years. It’s hard. It’s weird. It’s awkward to “say the right thing”. It’s nice to hear from other people who’ve gone through the same and are willing to talk about it in a candid way. And Pete, you deserve credit for being a lovely host and being present. You’re creating an environment in which people feel comfortable experiencing these emotions and talking about their experiences, and that’s pretty awesome.

  20. Job says:

    This episode was incredible. I’m going through a divorce right now, and although it’s nothing like losing a parent, it’s the most difficult thing I’ve ever experienced.

    June’s willingness and openness to talk about grief, and especially Pete’s wonderful response to her grief in that moment, is one of the most genuine and considerate things I’ve heard. There really is strength and beauty in this kind of reaction to an unknowable sadness, and something I’m glad could be captured and experienced by so many people.

    Thank you for this ministry, Pete. Your podcast has gotten me through some really difficult times.

  21. Brad says:

    Such a deep cut, thank you for this one.

  22. SJP says:

    a really lovely episode

  23. Steve says:

    Pete, next time Doug Benson accuses you of not knowing when to shut up, play him the moment of silence in this podcast, on a loop, forever.

    In that silence I relived watching my grandmother taking her final breath. It took me to the very brink of tears, it gave me that “oh shit, i’m going to cry in public” panic (I’m British, stiff upper lip etc). And then I smiled as a happy memory of my grandmother came to me.

    Thank you for that moment of silence, for not immediately jumping in with words of comfort, for giving the emotion space to breathe.

    Laser Accurate Silence, Emotional Response

  24. Sarah says:

    This was a beautiful episode. I’m thankful that Miss June shared her experiences. <3

  25. Sarah says:

    I lost my father over the summer, and listening to June talk about losing her mother and making the decision about life support and all of the weird things that happen with grief (and what helps) was so spot on.

    Great episode, really appreciate hearing other people talk about this stuff so openly.

  26. Kim says:

    Thanks to June for being brave enough to openly share her feelings about her Mom’s death. And thanks to Pete for letting her do so.

    I appreciate you guys not editing out the emotional parts of this episode. It’s not always about the funny.

    Great episode.

  27. T says:

    Pete’s Paul impression is amazing.

    Great ep.

  28. Mark says:

    Heavy, sweet episode. Jill Bolte Taylor’s books/talks are 100% worth listening to.

  29. KT says:

    Holy cow, that was heavy, but know I appreciated it. I could relate.

    And she’s so right — the people that show up despite awkwardness in times of loss and grief are the best. Cherish those people. They’re also the people we should learn a few things from, as we should all be so brazen…while boundaries are a real thing and should be respected, I don’t care how old anyone is — when a parent dies, there is something comforting about a person who invites themselves in, puts a lasagna the the oven and just watches shitty tv with you and sits next to you and allows time to pass without saying a word.

    Grief and death is super weird and those who help those dealing with grief and death — amazing people.

  30. blake says:

    at 28:00 the “acid man” referred to is Terence McKenna

  31. Andy says:

    YMIW has now successfully overtaken This American Life as the podcast that has made me openly weep by a score of 6 to 5. BTW, I’m a 38 year old white guy and usual non-weeper.

  32. Mike says:

    Very emotional and beautiful podcast though, I wish I finished listening before I posted my snarky “not true” comment.

  33. Mike says:

    The moon and menstruation don’t even line up perfectly, much less have any thing to do with each other.

  34. Patrick says:

    Lunar cycle has no effect on the menstrual cycles of humans. Furthermore, tons of animals have way different menstrual cycles that have no correlation with a 28 day cycle.

    (Peter, don’t ever ever ever lose your openness to new ideas, and I don’t know if you actually took on what she said as fact, but pseudoscience isn’t throwing a wet NERF football to a golden retriever while the sun sets.)

  35. naomi says:

    I love this lady and this conversation! I can vouch that that particular UHaul storage place in Queens is nearly impossible to get to, and the address takes you to the middle of a highway, because it is behind a highway ramp. I had to go there many times and it never got easier.

    On the subject of periods…

    If I remember correctly from my anthropology major days, women who are breastfeeding will not get periods or get pregnant. Therefore breastfeeding can act as birth control, and women in less modern societies use this technique to control their family size.

    “Most women who exclusively breastfeed their baby do not have any periods until they stop breastfeeding altogether”(

  36. Chuck says:

    Holy crap, this was amazing. I was already a fan through How Did This Get Made, but learning so much about June through other podcast appearances lately has turned my appreciation of her up tenfold. This was so emotionally satisfying – and not just her mother’s story. The bloody-head stop sign thing is just…I mean, I am constantly worrying about how I’ve reached a point in life where my defensive, animal instincts have atrophied, to the point where I could injure myself in public and just sit there, waiting to either die or get rescued by…I don’t know, the world, somehow.

    But anyway, good share. Good episode. Good Pete.

  37. mikachu says:

    What a beautiful and touching episode. I lost my Dad when I was 25, and could definitely relate to everything June was talking about in regards to grief. Pete’s reaction to June’s vulnerability was really sweet to hear. 🙂

  38. Tillburg says:

    Wow of all the episodes this one is king supreme at making me feel real woozy. Lots of talk about blood throughout the entire show. Had to stop a few times from the queasiness.

  39. Kyle S. says:

    My hairline started receding when I was like 21 and five years later I had only a few sad scraggly bits of hair on the top of my head. So a few months ago after marathoning The Shield I just shaved it all off–and holy sweet goddamn do I feel better. Thank you Michael Chiklis.

  40. Tyler says:

    Loved this episode. I lost my mother when I was a little younger than June and can definitely relate to the feelings she mentioned, particularly with grieving over her life as opposed to just her own grief

    I honestly could have spent another couple hours listening to JDR and Pete talk.

  41. Kilian says:

    Great epsiode Pete! And if you ever need a hardcore/punk version of your TV show’s theme song for some reason… You know who to call.

  42. -Di. says:

    Hey Pete! I love your podcast!! Thank you so much for giving this free podcast to the world. I really appreciate it and wanted to let you know that I do. Thank you again!

    So asking you for a 20 second hug in November won’t make it weird? Cool.

    I cannot wait for your late night show. I’m certain it’s going to be awesome.

    This was a fantastic episode.