JAWLINES! Sandra asks actor Liam McIntyre (Spartacus) some forward questions about what it’s like to be attractive, learning about fame, true love and how she judged him too soon. TOPICS: Good genetic stock, getting objectified, chubby bullied kid, San Diego Comic-Con, intense weight loss, objectification, Samuel L. Jackson, fame, status, attractive assumptions, narcissism, terrible with women, true love, The Game, Men’s Health cover, skinny to beefy, on-set story, passion, pretty bonuses, revisionist history, non-conformist flabbiness, and mystery.
Liam McIntyre was born on February 8, 1982 in Adelaide, South Australia, Australia. He is an actor, known for Spartacus: War of the Damned (2010), The Legend of Hercules (2014), and Radev (2010). He has been married to Erin Hasan since January 5, 2014.
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As a guy who also wants to act for a living, I’ve always felt that “I may not be the most attractive, but some people’ll find me attractive surely,” I’ve definitely got things I like about myself, I work out and all that, but my confidence is up or down. Regardless of if the confidence is there or not at any particular time in my life however, I’ve only had two occasions in my life where someone was openly attracted to me. (which felt pretty amazing, unfortunately the validation was addictive)
Now I’m aware that this probably isn’t true, but it’s how it feels. It feels like you need to be the top percentage of attractive men to be considered worthy of even a compliment, or even just to feel like you’re a sexual or romantic option. I feel like at university and out of it at my age (21), the stereotype that you have lots and lots of sex and partners just doesn’t apply for me, and I feel very excluded.
A really minor thing to be complaining about I know, I’m otherwise very busy, social and happy. I just wanted to share my perspective.
I’m in a similar boat. What few sexual or romantic encounters I’ve ever had have been with women I’ve actively pursued myself. I’ve never had the experience of feeling desired without first going through a gauntlet of approval; it’s always been a struggle to be recognized.